The Chump Lady Survival Guide to Infidelity: How to Regain Your Sanity After You've Been Cheated On

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I kept asking if maybe separating would be a better option as he clearly couldn’t stand to even be in the same room with me. She and the mechanic have started back up again and just four months later, is moving into her house. These terrible feelings are very real and can happen to anyone; your story reminded me of some pretty dark times in my basement and how I overcame them. Oh, or the revolting man who came up to me IN CHURCH, on CHRISTMAS EVE, IN FRONT OF MY FAMILY and kissed the back of my neck -- by way of greeting, because I'd once worked in his bakery. My soon to be ex is not worth it, I have two awesome boys, a family that loves me, and friends that straight up told her what a hooch she is.

and they’ll post a bunch of shit on their social media using their abuse victim’s suicide to get themselves attention.Meanwhile I am racked with guilt and anger for not reaching out to S and being supportive of him; now it is too late.

The betrayal I felt when I learned that most of my “friends” not only KNEW about the affair but SUPPORTED my husband and his whore was almost as painful as my husband’s betrayal.And if another “close friend” is telling you to be supportive of her, then you need to find a better group of friends. I would, however, include a content warning at the beginning of the article–even just a wee little brief one. She also claimed that I was “too involved in my own issue’s with my own FW that I couldn’t see the truth of her situation” that her husband was “just kidding”. I myself have never had to manage thoughts and feelings of homicide/suicide until I was cheated on by Traitor X. Lying to an intimate partner, sneaking around and gaslighting them about it is absolutely 100% abuse, and victims experience many, even most, of the same psychological and physiological effects as victims of physical abuse or assault.

Then he would cry and apologize and say, “Of course I want to married to you – where do you come up with this stuff? When L told me about the affair I did my best to be supportive, but I saw all the signs of abuse and trauma S was experiencing. My heart goes out to all those who had the mindfuck of infidelity followed up with the mindfuck of fake remorse.

Leaving that aside, adding a content warning at the start of the post so people can take care when reading is a good idea. I lost someone I loved whom while yes, made the decision to end his life, did not deserve to be treated like he did. Now she and the mechanic are going to live high on the hog with blood money and you’ve dipped your hands in it too (IMO).